Often my close friends ask me how I am feeling. Acquaintances who know politely ask “How are you today?”
I typically have three responses:
Today is a great day!
I am doing well.
I am OK.
Something fundamentally changes a person who has experienced cancer. I refer to this as the three Fs.
The first F is FRACTURED. Both the body and mind are broken. What I once knew as safe and solid are no more. To heal, I must take those fractured pieces and realign them to a new meaning. For my mind, I focus on what this journey teaches me. For my body, I focus on how to improve it.
The second F is FRAGILE. I remain vulnerable to infection due to my low blood counts. I focus on sanitary conditions in all my encounters. My body is damaged from the chemotherapy. I focus on cut-short nails to avoid nail lift (the nails lifts off the nail bed). I focus on quality products to deal with damaged skin and hair.
The third F is FATIGUED. My friend from high school, Chantal, told me I would be tired like I have never experienced tired. She was right. I still complete most everything I did before this journey; it just takes longer and requires help from others. My medical team shares that by December I should experience an improved change in my energy levels.
I share this with you so that you might better understand what a cancer journey is like. Fractured, fragile, and fatigued all have silver linings. The three Fs have taught me:
Better care physically for my body.
Better care nutritionally for my body.
Better care emotionally for me.
Leaders … What is damaged in your organization that you must nurture for a better outcome?
Who, of your followers, needs care?