NEVER THE SAME BUT BETTER

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal, and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again, but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

The Kubler-Ross quote is so applicable to our cancer journey.

I believe we are both in a much better place today than we were June 2016.  Physically we are healthier.  Emotionally we are stronger.

I would not want to go back to the life I once had.  It was a great life and I miss what I have lost.  However, I could not go back and try to make that life make sense.  What was important to me then is so differently important to me know.

I savor those few moments after breakfast when Richard and I finish our last bit of coffee.  I love the way he offers another cup. Sometimes we talk and sometimes we just remain in each other’s presence.  A year ago, I would have hustled to clear the table and rushed off to work.  I believe I enjoy life at a better pace today.

I place a much higher value on my friendships today.  I hold more love for the people who have “showed up.”   I have discovered who our true friends are in the love and support they have given freely.

Cancer sucks.  It is a horrid disease that affects the entire family.  This journey is no cakewalk.  There are days that my “suck it up cupcake and keep going” has run out of fuel.  I often wonder why me?  Why us?  Why now?

I do not know the answers to those questions.

What I do know is that I will not let cancer defeat me.  It has changed me and changed us.

We won.

Leaders…

How is your work life balance working for the best outcome?

What work life balance are you teaching your followers?

-VhS

 

 

 

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